Dating Tips for Men: Time Management - Part 1
July 17, 2008
Dating can be your best friend.
…OR your big enemy.
A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, “He thinks with his… You know.”
Well it can be tough to NOT think that way if you aren’t sensually satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We need to achieve things and influence the world in a good way. And we are doers of it.
Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I’ve personally faced.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling… there’s nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON’T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, likewise to women.
In fact, it’s the nature of a woman to take up the man’s time - it’s her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there’s a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are “givers.” They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
There is also a urges in men that completely take over your thoughts.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, “WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?”
Now I bet it is not about “money,” or “control over my life,” or “lots of my free time.”
It was probably something like “feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc.”
I think guys have some difficulties with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren’t that valuable.
Second, men think that they are “getting” something valuable when a girl spends time with them.
Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there’s some inherent value in a pretty face.
It’s not TRUE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN’T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now getting out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women is really hard.
It is hard to notice the mental habits because these are subtle and you’ve been doing them for years.
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