Get Back With Your Ex: The First Steps
July 30, 2008
It’s finally happened, you’ve broken up with your ex. Want should you do next? The next crucial steps will be the focus of this article.
1.) Panic and stress is the enemy that you must deal with first. It will be extremely difficult to think straight and take control if you are stressed out. Avoid discussing among your friends your problems with your ex.
This does nothing but reinforce your bad feelings. It will also generate discomfort and embarrassment among your friends. Unless they are very knowledgeable in relationship issues, their suggestions won’t be that useful.
2.) Remember that things rarely fix themselves. You will have to make it happen. You can only do this with a cool head.
After your breakup, your first impulse will be to try to fix things up as quickly as possible before it is too late. Relationship repair cannot be achieved overnight. In fact, it’s best to allow a cooling off period of about a month.
It helps tremendously if the breakup occurred in a non threatening way. Some time will be needed for reflection, to get things into perspective. Understanding the reasons behind the breakup is essential before any attempt at contacting her.
3.) Be friends with her. It’s not the easiest thing to do with someone you’ve recently broken up with but it sets you up well for future contact with her. The status of your relationship is defined by what happened during your last contact. This last contact forms the basis of her recent memories about you.
Do some of the fun activities you did together before you had sex. This will bring out her memories of the good times of your relationship. This fun aspect of your past relationship will make it harder for her to leave.
4.) Be careful of alcohol. It will mess up your judgement. It’s very common for a person late at night after a few drinks to think that it’s a good idea to wake up their ex with a phone call.
No one wants to be woken up late at night with a phone call. This is especially the case if it’s their ex calling. The alcohol will make the situation a lot worse because it will diminish your better sense and things will be said that you’ll later regret.
5.) Get away from the house and enjoy yourself. Easier said than done, I know, but it’s a great form of therapy. It’s time to dust off old friendships and to make some new ones too. There’s no better remedy for driving away the blues of separation than enjoying life again.
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