How To Overcome Fear Of Rejection
December 6, 2007
Relationships have to make us happy. Broken relationships lead to broken hearts, and broken hearts hurt. And once bitten, twice shy, says the old adage - so from that moment on, we fear rejection.
How Do You Overcome Fear Of Rejection?
First love yourself.
That’s a tall order for many of us. We look in the mirror and grimace at our reflection, we even moan about aspects of our own personalities to our closest friends! In other words, we reject ourselves! No wonder we fear that others will too!
Here’s a clue: you talk and think about yourself in exactly the same way as you do about someone else. In other words, you’re as much of a stranger, (and surprise), to yourself as you are to anyone else!
Think about it: your body is a novelty! You have no idea when or why or if another hair is going to turn grey or fall out, or when the next wrinkle might appear. You certainly take no part in making your liver cells work or digesting your food or circulating your blood, do you? In other words, the “thing” you call “you” isn”t your body, your personality - it isn’t even your thoughts, since they can surprise you too!
Why am I telling you this? So that you can begin to relate to who you are in the same way you’d relate to a dear friend. Sure, they’ve got their foibles, eccentricities, even bad habits. But you love them. They make you feel good. They’re always there for you in times of trouble. So they pick their nose at traffic lights, but they make you laugh don’t they? They break wind in bed, but they’re generous with their time, love and patience for you, aren’t they?
And here’s the biggest kicker of them all: Everyone lives with fear of rejection! Everyone wants to know how to overcome the fear of rejection - and the answer is staring all of us right in the face: once you know that everyone feels just like you, you’re in charge of any situation. Fear of rejection is universal!
Others don’t see us as we see ourselves. Good thing too!
Secondly, get clear, really clear, about what you want. Is it romance? Just sex? True love? Do you want to go dating, or just be a seduction artist?
That’s it! That way, you’ll have bundles of love to give away, you’ll be a joy to be around, (which makes you irresistibly attractive), and during those times when you find yourself alone, you’ll be delighted to have your company for a while.
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